I tried to reconcile with no avail. Im in not conact rule right now, respecting her decition and trying to heal my self as well. We both have been in rough relationships and on top I lost my daughter more than 2 years ago. Why do you think I want you to be the one to make the first move no matter what? Since its come to the breakup, your ex can either fix those issues or simply ignore them and carry them into the next relationship. Hes gone abroad so I am implementing the no contact for the week hes away. People often ask me, Will my ex forget about me during no contact? Remember, the guy who is stubborn may want more than anything for you to contact him but he just cant get out of his own way sometimes. You can do this! But they could give you hope, which will have the same effect on you as visiting a fortune-teller. My Ex Won't Leave Me Alone! It cant erase the past or focus on the present so strongly that it stays distracted forever. Thus, many women feel almost entitled when it comes to men talking to them. They Are Obsessed With You - Why My Ex Blocked Me: If someone has blocked you and they have done so by going out of their way, then you should be amazed because they are not ignoring you; they are obsessed with you. But you shes right, you cant do that until you figure yourself out. You see, in their mind they feel entitled to a response. I have heard nothing. Girls often do that when they want to have your attention. 4. Does this mean that you are going to have to be the one to press the action after the NC rule is completed? He has an avoidant attachment style and has difficulty expressing his emotions. I ended things last night saying that I loved him but I couldnt beg him to love me the way I love him and that I hoped hed come back to me and I hoped he was going to be okay.. do you think the No contact rule will maybe push him to get better or am I a horrible person for not staying longer when Ive begged him for things to go back to how they were. For that one silly argument she wants to end it!! Which is fine. Its been almost 2wks now. Most women get extremely depressed when an ex boyfriend doesnt message them at all during the no contact period. Do you think theres a way back for us? How else can you meet other interesting and more beautiful girls if you're hanging on the memory of an indecisive girl. None of us can help people who cant help themselvesesp with emotional stuff. Theres no time it takes each person to go through all stages. All I have to say is, Karma is a bitch good luck with AIDS you hoe. youve never dated anyone as good as your ex. This exists in a variety of different forms. They should feel like you are enjoying life and don't have hard feelings towards them. It could be that they want to keep tabs on you, or they're hoping to get back together with you one day. It can be entirely possible that the no contact rule was working you just have no idea because he has an amazing poker face. Yes, there are time where you have to view it as a game (the talking phase, getting your ex back, etc.) After four years of still broken relationship, we decided to move in together. We did not communicate well at all or I feel would could have recovered. You reach out but you do not mention that he deleted you. Day 46 NC and deleted me on WhatsApp. Sometimes when a girl messages me first I think to myself. Essentially what I am going to be doing here is bridging the gap between you and your ex boyfriend. But there's one particular reason that stands out from the rest. I have kids and we broke up because he couldnt see a future for us dispite saying he is in love with me, Im the one blah blah blah. I disagreed of course since I am worried it could affect her health again. We laughed a lot, had lots of fun together and didnt really argue. After the no contact period is over. Anyways, it seems that I have developed a new pet peeve when it comes to communicating with you ladies. Thats when i decided to call it quits. I read this article so i immediately follow the NC rule. In that case, one needs to adjust to solo parenting so the kids can thrive. My ex has a pattern of exactly 3 weeks after he breaks up with me to come back. There are many reasons why your ex hasn't tried to contact you. He said he had to let me go as he cant give now me the love and care I deserve. I love and miss him so much, Hey Claire, it is only you who can deicide if you want to move on or not, I am happy to give you advice with whichever path you choose. I promise that I am going to do everything in my power to make that a reality for you and I want YOU to hold me accountable to it. He blocked me and It took about 3 weeks before i contacted him and we started talking. Are you afraid your ex will forget about you during no contact? These two reasons are the only perpetrators and the main reasons why you as a dumpee may think that blocking your ex to get him back is a good idea. This is SOOOO wrong on so many different levels. He has a very busy job and is doing other projects outside of work so tends to be busy. I replied saying let me know if you want to talk. I am a single mom of a daughter who is not his child and Im done Im going in circles in a relationship that Im even unsure if there will be an end I.e marriage. She also then started seeing someone from work which really upset me because it was so soon after we broke up and . Gojira_Kan 3 yr. ago. The best advice I can give you is to manage your expectations. In essence, they are continually practicing their social skills. (If you want the more in-depth explanation of what it is and how to properly do it I suggest you read this article pronto.). She's telling you that she wanted to stay but it hurt her to do so and her unfriending you is her taki. Our situation took a toll on it because we cant see each other a lot because of the pandemic and she doesnt have freedom coz shes assisting her cousin for his online class except weekends and also for some restrictions from her aunt. Well, lets assume that you are embarking on a 30 day no contact rule and lets say that after 21 days your ex boyfriend hasnt gotten in touch with you. Answer (1 of 6): It more than likely means that your ex wants no part of you. While it is always important to find that delicate balance between logic and emotions it is also important to remember that the mere fact that your ex is trying to get back at you through the use of his silence means he is feeling emotions. That would be impossible as they had a close connection with their ex and created a lot of memories. And only gave a little time for me. I never told him this. Ailie, I would suggest that you go a full 45 days NC and when he does come back that you explain this is the last time you are willing to make things work and if he leaves again you are happy to start moving on with your life. We were in a LDR and we constantly communicate tru txts and calls for over a time. For example, if you go into the no contact rule dead set on believing that your ex is going to blow up your phone with messages like: (This text example was taken from an excerpt of one of my booksThe Texting Bible.). We lived together and got along very well. This is me taking responsibility for not explaining the no contact rule as thoroughly as I should have. She said that she doesnt know how to make you happy and that she feels that she just makes you mad. What we are going to be getting into now is the actual ignoring part. That will surely make your ex think less fondly of you and force your ex to move on with more determination and fewer doubts. No Contact Rule is equal to leaving your ex-partner alone for some time (i.e a few days, some weeks, 30 days, 45+) or giving your ex some space that provokes his/her thoughts regarding your relationship. Hence I feel that no-contact is more successful at helping the dumpee heal, but is less successful at helping the dumpee get the dumper back. Me and my ex were only together 2 and a half months and it may sound stupid to some people I get that, but in that time Ive never felt such a strong connection with someone as I did with her, it felt like we had known each other years. I have done some really shameful things when I have been ignored in the past. The no contact rule is meant to tap into that loss and cause an ex boyfriend to contact you but is that the true purpose of the no contact rule? For example, I remember when I was younger and a girl I was falling for wouldnt respond to my texts I logged on to Facebook and looked at her profile to see if she was online. Hi V, so I would suggests that you reach out at day 30 since you were getting along well. That likely wont end well for you as youll soon exhaust the person youre with and suffer another romantic rejection. I told her I absolutely cant do that right now, and dont even know if I will ever. I have been also working out and focusing on myself because I know its important. However, if you try to call and she doesn't answer, don't worry. They may not think about them as strongly and frequently as you think about your ex (especially right after the breakup), but they certainly dont erase dumpees from their memory. This victimized role he is going to place himself in is going to cause him to want revenge on you in some way shape or form. Unfortunately, there is no right way to stay in your exs life and win them over. Well, the same can be said about the no contact rule as there are parts of it that can be very complicated. He or she wont forget you by dating someone else either. You have been in the no contact period for about 10 days but he hasnt contacted you. I just control my anxiety and she did not bother helping me get through it even if it was her fault why i developed this. The first thing I do is answer my coaching clients (since its common for them to have a lot of questions.) When you couple this resentment with the no contact rule you get what we are talking about here with an ex trying to get back at you. Now, this brings up an interesting question. I would suggest that you allow a 21 day no contact before you speak with him again. Everyone is saying to not text her that she has to be the one that texts back. She told me she would manage her time for me. Make sure you remain honest if you decide to speak. You cried at the top of your lungs until they paid attention to you. Get your stuff together. So, the scene I have just painted above is pretty simple. She even said she was sorry. Your job as a dumpee, therefore, is to allow your ex to relieve pressure, anger, or guilt and enjoy life without interruptions and reminders of you. Towards on our 8th month, she started writing again. To start with a little bit of hope to cling to, rest assured that dumpers dont just forget dumpees. In fact, a lot of readers love when I go on one of my tangents about how important it is to be logical. However, there is also a time where it is very important to be emotional. You know, the he is going to have to text me if he wants to talk type of attitude. I am trying so so hard to push past my urges not to message him. I made it clear I still wanted us to keep trying but she said she didn't think it would work out and wasn't in love with me anymore. I was hurt deeply and Im just starting to feel better. I'm guessing that maybe whoever shes dating tells her to block you. We had few text in the first 10 day then I have been silent for the last. Is she really? Don't answer his messages, don't visit his social media profiles, remove him from your fb feed so you don't receive the daily updates. While it is entirely possible that those three outcomes can occur it is also possible that all three may not occur. 1. Why does she feel like shes more of a babysitter to you?? He may discover what he actually was experiencing before when he said he was "tired of you," was just the normal up and down of relationship. You have managed your expectations about him reaching out during NC but you are a human being after all and you cant help but wonder why he has been silent on his end for 10 days straight. And then ego will get the better of him. This website has a lot of information about the no contact rule since it is an essential stepping stone to getting your ex boyfriend back. Be mindful of your response to their text. Well, if you take a look at the true purpose of no contact (to make him feel like he misses you) you cant really tell if he misses you or not if he never contacts you. The no contact rule was born from this type of thinking. No need to unfriend or block him if you take these steps. Well, one thing we already know is that your ex is extremely stubborn. And yet, that simple idea turns out to be one of the hardest things to successfully complete when it comes to the ex recovery process. If you were to have the attitude that I described above, the entitlement attitude, then the chances are high that nothing will get done. It depends on what they say and if your ex keeps texting you, but in general you should respond to an ex boyfriend or girlfriend's text by being happy and lighthearted. It's So Frustrating! Her last post was about our dogs (4 years) birthday, but she broke up with us 4 months ago and is no longer part of our dogs life.so I am very confused since it has now been 7-days since we have not spoke. But as the saying goes its better said than done she didnt eventually. We had rented our apartment together and the 23th August we went for the sign off, I found out about this other guy from malasya who left a few days after that day back to his country, and obviusly hurted me a lot and I say a few things to her, no bad words, just the truth, and bcs of it she blocked me everywhere, social media phone email etc ecte cte the 15 Of September i made a call, we spoke for 10 minutes, she was receptive with what i had to say, I was just wishing the best luck for her and telling her that I had no resenment. Find someone who respects and appreciates your needs. He wants to make sure that you'll see his name on the screen after a week of radio silence. There are two main reasons why your ex (who consistently treated you poorly), unfollowed you on social media: He just can't. He's hurt either by you or by having to see your photos. She asked me to leave again so about 30 mins later I did after probably spending that 30 mins annoying her more trying to apologise and make it ok. 2 Days went past we didnt speak, then I sent an apology to her, she responded saying how tough she was finding life and she would rather be alone now and I desevered someone with better mental health she said she didnt think it was wrong that i had said about sex as I was in a relationship with her and thats what people do so she understood why I mentioned it. These things wont exactly cause your ex to delete you from existence, but they will make your ex lose respect for you and think about you much less and in worse light after your ex has gotten space. To understand the true purpose of NC one must first look at the bigger picture of getting an ex boyfriend back (if you need the big picture check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.). But if your ex doesnt return, he or she will probably think about you and other romantic partners significantly more than now and try to figure out if any of them can help him or her cope with anxiety. I am happy to advise on either path that you choose, but you need to think if this is a person who is worth your time and effort. Ive gotten to know that my ex slept with someone else already about a week after the break up. I did not wanted really get committed too soon in a relationship and would have preferred to take my time too. Like people said above, We took our power back from the experience of being dumped.. and to them it probably looks like you don't care anymore and blocking you is trying to get your attention and maybe have you feel a type of way to reach out @ some point. Same thing happened to me! Or maybe for him is over? Heck, most people make relationship decisions based on their emotions. What we are going to be talking about in this article is going to be a little involved and will require a bit of foundation on your part (i.e. Following the no contact rule with you may be their way of protecting themselves, or they could be using it to show their displeasure with you. Would An Ex Like This Ever Consider A Reconciliation? Doesnt have socials. This is the first step. I have been through this several times. We had few texts in the first two week, then 10 days ago I went silent. Now heres the problem. I dont know if many of you know this but this website wasnt actually supposed to be a blog. Lets assume your ex dumper is tired, angry, disappointed and glad you are gone. Best read since Lord of the rings was released. If anything, they are going to use you to get over you, and then discard you when they meet someone else. He broke up 3 weeks ago. I honestly do not know what to do now because I am heart broken and feel shattered. I cant get my head around the sudden change! I never said the same doesnt apply to your ex. I replied again a few times apologising saying she didnt have to accept my apology but just know I was truly sorry. Hi Alice, I think you have been clear with what you want from him and he has said he is not ready for that commitment yet. Sometimes they focus on themselves and others and see no reason to go back to their ex. For example: - You were distant and did not successfully communicate with your ex But also talked about how he should have made more effort. Thank you so much That probably doesnt make you feel much better, but you need to know that dumpers dont always come back. Can Breaking Up Strengthen A Relationship? Your ex won't forget about you during no contact To start with a little bit of hope to cling to, rest assured that dumpers don't just forget dumpees. This is the 1st time we havent spoken. What do you think is considered a long time for an ex boyfriend to respond to you? Fourth, Over Analyzing. Unfortunately, most women dont realize that fact. I wasnt her first boyfriend but I was her longest relationship so far (2 years) and she always told me I was the best boyfriend she had. You have embarked on the no contact rule and you are feeling pretty darn good about yourself. Does your ex boyfriend even need to contact you during NC for you to be able to get him back? If you stay friends with your ex, right after the break-up, you are going to suffer and stay friends until you choose to go separate ways. 3. Here is the deal though. We were not at full plus capacity and we began bickering with each other. I said ok. And I left again. Read this before contacting the mod team. The best way I can answer whether your ex will forget about you during no contact is to say that dumpers dont forget their exes. She recently ended our 3yrs relationship. Its why your ex broke up with you in the first place. Answer (1 of 9): That's a good news for you bruh ! People typically talk about defriending as a way to express their hurt . Its been almost 90 days since we talked and Im really wondering if he has moved on, he said he left because I betrayed him by saying I was friends with someone else he clearly holded such a grudge to and I have no idea if hes moved on or not, a few days ago that one person he holded such a grudge to tried to talk to him and he got really mad for a few hours, does this mean he hasnt moved on? Make sure you dont pressure him. What do you think I told women to do after no contact? Prevents you from seeing what he's up to because sometimes you really don't want to know. How do I know this? It was the day before New Years Eve. I will keep applying the no conctac rule. Its been a week, probably not long enough. Trust me. Its wrong on so many levels because it infuriates them, when they are nowhere near ready to converse with you. 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